We all know that having sex is great for your marriage… but after a long day of work, kids and un-fun stuff like paying bills, it can be hard to find the desire – or the energy.
When time is short or your libido’s low, try these female-friendly tips. They fan the flames of desire in double-quick time – and you don’t even have to take your clothes off. Unless you want to.
…and wear it around the house, or to the gym. Researchers at the University of California at Berkeley said women who sniffed a musky chemical in male sweat felt more sexually aroused.
Within 15 minutes of smelling the hormone, called androstadienone, women’s cortisol levels shot up and stayed that way for up to an hour. The women also had increased blood pressure, heart rate and faster breathing. In plain language, they felt more energised and aroused.
For comparison’s sake, the same women also smelled baking yeast, which also smells a bit musky… but it did not trigger the same effects.
Hearing sex described releases a rush of hormones into your brain, priming you for skin on skin. And there’s a LOT out there, available online or even via iTunes. Here are just a few to try:
Kinsey Confidential Podcast is created by the famous Kinsey Institute at Indian University, which is all about sexual research. Professors and psychologists give straightforward answers to the sexual questions many of us are too embarrassed to ask (or even Google)… two recent topics include: How much hair is normal around the anus? And why did I become multi-orgasmic after age 40?
Sex Out Loud by Tristan Taomino discusses female pleasure from every angle (and we mean every angle) with the goal of “prioritising female pleasure and orgasm”. Fair warning: It can be quite… “ear-opening” and the American accents can be distracting.
Friday Night Fun Erotic Stories are about 10 minutes long, created just for this podcast series.
Kiss Me Quick’s Erotic Podcast is a series of steamy but intellectual erotica for women curated by Rose Caraway – nicknamed “the sexy librarian”. She curates extracts from a wide range of erotic novels and with extracts ranging in length from nine minutes to two hours you can enjoy a sexy secret while you wait for the MRT train home, or hide in your bedroom for the entire evening.
… or cucumber-scented gel – studies show these are two of the most relaxing scents, which can help increase blood flow to your brain… and further south.
Or get a foot massage after work. Both increase blood flow to your skin, which makes it more sensitive to touch.
Your scalp is covered with nerve endings that makes it super-sensitive to the touch. A scalp massage not only releases tension, it also increase blood flow and floods your body with the feel-good hormones dopamine and serotonin.
Wearing red not only makes you feel sexier – it can make you seem sexier to men. In a study, men were shown photos of the same women wearing a red shirt or a blue shirt… and they were significantly more interested when the woman was wearing red. When the men were asked if the colour of the woman’s shirt influenced them, they said no. The truth is colour affects your mood in an unconscious way, so even if you think wearing red has no effect on your mood, it may still have an effect on you. Why not try and see if it works tonight?
Press firmly for 30 seconds. Next time you’re putting on hand cream or washing your hands, In acupressure, this spot opens up sexual energy. The outer and inner rims of the ear are also linked to increasing sexual desire, so try rubbing all over your ears while you’re in the shower.
If you usually wear fragrance when you go out with your husband, spritz it on before he gets home. The area of the brain that controls emotions is very close to the areas that control smell… so the scent of the fragrance can bring back memories of intimate times together.
Studies show that moving your body makes you feel more physically self confident and happy with your body – and that’s never a bad thing when it comes to feeling sexy. And if you feel a bit competitive in class, that’s okay also – competition raises testosterone levels in women, which also raises arousal.
Moving your spine up and down from the Cat to the Cow pose helps strengthen the kegel muscles, the muscles in your pelvis that contract during orgasm. Other poses that help increase libido are the Bound Angle, Bridge Pose, Pigeon Pose and the Eagle Pose, where you twist your legs around each other. This pose causes such a rush of blood to the pelvis it’s even mentioned in the Kama Sutra. See the images here…
Text: Tara Barker / Photos: Pixabay, 123rf.com
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