1. Paying your family a visit
While there is a long-standing tradition of Chinese brides going home to visit their families during the lunar new year, that usually happens on the second day of the lunar new year. For newlyweds, the first lunar new year visit is known as the “welcoming the son-in-law” day, literally.
2. Gift giving
Whether you’re newly married or not, your husband should buy auspicious gifts, usually a bottle of red wine or tonic wine like Yomeishu, for your parents.
To spread good luck and fortune, couples traditionally should buy new year goodies and “lucky” gifts such as tea sets, bird’s nest, ginseng, and so on. If you don’t have time to go shopping, a red packet with money for your in-laws to purchase such items or to make new clothes for the year is fine, too.
3. Starting a family
For 2019, couples who are keen to have children should wear their new clothes and walk in the North-West direction for about 200m to 300m. The walk must be done from 6.30am and completed by 7pm, and end at a place of worship. During the walk, try to observe a handicapped person, dogs barking, sounds of drums, sedans/vehicles from the north. And once you’ve reached the place of worship, pray for a child.
4. Giving out ang baos
While newlyweds in their first year will still receive red packets from their elders, you’ll still have to prepare your own for your younger relatives. If you’re unsure about the amount to put in, look online for angpow guides, or ask your parents for a gauge. Even if you’re not giving them out this year, don’t forget to give angpows to both your parents, as well as grandparents, as a gesture of good luck and well wishes.
5. Arguing on Chinese New Year Day
Try not to quarrel on Chinese New Year day but if you do fight (this is unavoidable in all marriages), do it in the bedroom. Never quarrel in the kitchen. According to Wilfred, he notices that couples who argue in the kitchen should take it as a big warning sign of a failing marriage.
6. Taking note of proper addresses
If you’ve been married for some time, skip this slide but newlyweds take note of the proper way to address your new relatives. By that we mean your husband’s relatives! Now that you’re married, it’s not proper to be calling everyone “aunty” or “uncle”. It should be “second aunt”, “eldest uncle”, and so on to you. The same rule applies to your husband, too.
7. Getting your household ready
If you’ve moved out and are living on your own, don’t forget that mum and dad won’t be around to help you with chores such as spring cleaning, buying new year goodies, and more now so get your household in order. Do remember to keep all doors and windows open throughout the day, too, to allow the new luck to fill your home.
8. Dressing up in colour
In general, couples should try to wear bright and happy colours on the first day of Chinese New Year. Pink, red and white are classified as marriage colours in feng shui but many men will refuse to be seen in pink especially. Try to incorporate these colours into your outfit using accessories to foster a stronger marriage bond.
9. Tying the knot
The spring period is the best time to get married if you’re thinking about walking down the aisle. It’s an auspicious period and according to the lunar calendar is usually one for celebration and joy, which is why it’s being heralded as the coming of new beginnings. Your wedding, if held during this period, will be seen as a double celebration.
10. Managing your Mother-in-law
A happy marriage also has to do with your relationship with your mother-in-law. Based on Wilfred’s research from destiny analyses classics dated to the Song dynasty, that wealth is related to your relationship with your mother-in-law after marriage. In modern logic, if you have a cordial relationship, you are less likely to stress and could spend your energy on your husband and your moneymaking ventures, both could result in better wealth for you.
11. Buying flowers
If you want your marriage to blossom in the Year of the Pig, consider adorning your home with fresh flowers;. If those flowers happen to be peonies even better! Once hard to find, peonies are much more common in flower markets and florists than they once were. The peonies are the queen flower of romance in feng shui. If your love life has ground to a halt, purchase red and pink peonies for the Chinese New Year. The red is highly regarded as a good fortune color (as well as passion!) and the pink is regarded as the romantic and tender kind of love.
12. Celebrate the “Valentine’s Day” of Chinese New Year
The 15th day is the last and final day of CNY and is often considered the Valentine’s day for Chinese. Try to wear red on this day. Red is especially auspicious at the start of the New Year, and even more so on the last day, or Valentine’s Day, so to speak, of the Chinese New Year. Better still, red energizes and wearing red on the day final day of Chinese New Year is a great way to energize yourself for love all year long. Besides that, men and women both look terrific in red colors – and the colour is magnetic!
13. Make a wish
We know it sounds cheesy but why not try praying for a better, stronger marriage? During CNY, prayers and wishes are often written on prayer flags and ribbons or paper and then hung in the wind to disperse your for the coming year. Write down your wish and hand it up on a wishing tree near a window in your home or outside on the balcony where it can blow in the wind.
(Wilfred Leu and Felicia Tan, Her World Brides / Additional Reporting by Natalya Molok)