- Think Positively Of Him
Don’t focus on what he does wrong, but the things you love, admire or appreciate about him. Putting your attention on these aspects has a huge effect, says psychologist Arthur Aron.
- Have Regular Sex
It’s a no-brainer that couples who are in love are probably having more sex. In fact, a study showed that the more sex a couple has, the happier they report being and the better their relationship is likely to be.
- Want To Know Where Your Partner Is 24/7
It’s something common among new relationships – but not in long-term unions. However, a study found a reasonable association with intense love and wanting to know where a partner was – particularly for men.
- Feel Generally Happy
If that’s you, chances are you’ll feel happier in your relationship too. Unhappy people, or those who suffer from depression or anxiety should get help. Arthur says learning to meditate shouldn’t just be for your benefit, but for your partner’s as well.
- Think About Your Partner When You’re Apart
Researchers found that the more you love your other half, the more you think about him when you’re apart. What helps: Keeping in touch via Whatsapp or SMS and telling each other about your day – even if it’s something as mundane as what you had for lunch. It’ll make a difference.
- Think About Him A Lot
Interestingly, women didn’t care so much about where their husbands were all the time, but they had slightly more obsessed thoughts about their partners – and it was linked to feelings of intense love, says Arthur.
- Do New And Challenging Things Together
Sitting on the couch watching TV together may be cosy, but new activities are better for your relationship. Don’t have to pick up new hobbies – just sprinkle in some novelty, like eating at a new restaurant or trying a new sport together. Even if it goes horribly wrong, it connects you and reminds you of when you first fell in love because everything was new then.
- Spend Time Together
Date nights, talking for 30 minutes a day, going to bed at the same time are the glue in your love. If you don’t do all these, you start drifting apart, which creates resentment, and in turn hostility. This can become a toxic cycle.
- Have A Zest For Life
Researchers found that people who were very intensely in love were equally passionate about everything in their life. If you’re one of those passionate people, your close relationships can benefit in a very positive way, says Arthur.
- Show Affection To One Another
The more you love a person, the more you express; and the more mutual love there is. So grow your love by holding hands when you go out, stealing a kiss when your partner isn’t looking and hugging each other just to show you care.
Text: Good Health, Bauer Syndication/ Additional Reporting: Sylvia Ong