1. The cake
It’s an integral part of so many weddings, but how the couple treat the cutting of the cake is, according to ModernDayCinderella, a big giveaway.
“During the cake cutting, most brides will say don’t smash the cake in their face (or vice versa). If the other person does it anyway, that’s a huge tell for respect.
“I know it’s all fun and games, but it’s a big tell to overall feelings.”
2. The stress
As ModernDayCinderalla points out, sometimes the adrenaline and good feeling of the day aren’t enough for some couples to play nicely together – and it’s surprisingly common.
“Fighting at the wedding about petty things. I’ve seen a lot of this. I know weddings are stressful, but you should be able to work through petty small things easily and move on.
“Almost all of my couples will hold grudges for at least the rest of the night, which in turn, ruins their images.
“I have to be the one that tells them, ‘look, I know you’re angry at each other right now, but for the sake of your lifetime memories, fake that you like each other for the rest of the night.'”
The bridezilla stereotype has been around for a long time now – and like many stereotypes, there’s a grain of truth in it. And as the photographer reveals, men aren’t exempt from this either.
“If you’re a Bride or Groomzilla then that’s a tell, too. All of my monsters have been absolute control freaks and refuse to let people help them, but then get angry that nobody helps them.”
“This tells me a lot about your personality and a lot of can be seen in your interaction with your significant other.”
“I think it is so telling when the maid of honor is giving a wedding toast and doesn’t even mention the groom. It’s not the best sign if if she talks about him, but in a sarcastic or passive aggressive way, either.”
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“When the couple starts calling me independently of each other, trying to reverse big decisions they made together, it makes me nervous,” says ModernDayCinderalla.
“They’ll say things like, ‘No need to mention this call’ or try to get me to ‘take their side.’”
If a bridge and groom can’t get on the same page about the location of their wedding or their guest count, they should be concerned about how they’ll handle real issues that crop up in the future.
But that isn't all...
In response to the photographer’s comments, other Redditors came forward with their stories.
Conundrum1 recalled:”At the end of the reception the guys are sitting at a table away from everyone else talking and we ask the groom why he proposed. His answer? ‘Because she was naked.’
“The marriage lasted about a year and a half.”
Freckle_juice_mama revealed how interaction with the in-laws can be telling:
“They spent $50k on a Disney wedding and the bride spent zero time anywhere near the in-laws for several hours. She ran off a week later.”
“This was over 10 years ago. The awful part is that the guy is such a wonderful person. He just attracts ‘crazy.'”
Another mentioned one wedding they’ll never forget:
“During the ceremony when the priest started asking the bride ‘Do you take this man to be your…’, she started laughing uncontrollably and couldn’t stop.
“It was cute for about 10 seconds and then things got real uncomfortable. They lasted a year and change. We all kinda knew the only reason they were getting married was because she got pregnant.”
And vogelarcher15 described some very telling vows:
“At the rehearsal dinner, the groom’s mum is in tears, because ‘he looks miserable’ and he was, we all knew it.
“During the vows they had written for each other, the bride starts with ‘I know I can be a pretty terrible person, and I don’t know why you’ve stuck around, but that’s all going to change starting today!’
“They were divorced a year later.”
(Text by bauersyndication.com.au / Additional reporting by Natalya Molok)