When all is well with your relationship, it may seem as if you can achieve everything with your soul mate at your side. However, if your marriage is struggling, you’ll probably feel the exact opposite. You’ll start to see things negatively and the world suddenly looks bleak.
If your relationship is stuck, all is not lost and finding the right person to get you back on track can be the solution to getting you back to that place where you can take on the world together.
A secret to relationship success is not waiting until things are dire. Seeking help when you first see signs of difficulty and getting tips on how best to resolve your issues are crucial at this point.
Here are eight signs that your marriage may need some intervention from a counsellor.
You keep fighting over the same thing and it’s never resolved
Often we have recurring themes in our arguments, but if you feel that you’re not getting heard and you can never reach a resolution or compromise, it’s time to find some help. Experts say if you keep having the same arguments over and over again, it indicates something isn’t working in your communication and conflict resolution. A professional couple’s counsellor or therapist would be able to provide you with the tools you need to resolve conflict quickly and effectively.
You fear speaking up
If you’re afraid to bring up issues with your spouse, you need to ask yourself why. If you are afraid of arguments or conflict, then it’s likely a cycle of communication break-down is already at play. If you’re afraid of violence or aggression, then you definitely need to seek counselling.
You don’t bother connecting anymore
Communication is key to any relationship, it’s how we connect. If you no longer wish to connect with your partner you need to ask why you’re still in the relationship. Relationship expert and trained counsellor Clinton Power says, “One of the most important aspects of being in a healthy relationship is the ability to communicate about important issues. And of course it’s incredibly rewarding to be able to talk to your partner about even mundane day-to-day things, so life isn’t so lonely and you can support each other.”
All you see is negative
If you imagine a relationship as a bank, and every negative comment is a withdrawal, eventually your bank account is going to be depleted. You need to continuously make relationship deposits to ensure your love stays in credit.
If someone is constantly negative towards you, it’s hard to feel positive towards them. Often negativity is a mindset, so if you need to change your negative mindset, a few sessions with a counsellor might help you out.
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