Myth: Partners have to be in sync with each other
Truth: That’s probably derived from the romanticised idea of “we are one” therefore we need to be alike and the same in everything, bordering on idealism and enmeshment.
We are not one. You are two different individuals with two different bodies, personalities, and even sexual desires. There is no such thing of being in sync. One should know it is not possible or even feasible. What does work is understanding and appreciating each other’s differences (not just sexual drives) – finding ways to turn your differences into a strength. This might include getting good at communicating your sexual needs, want sand desires, and working as a couple in loving and fulfilling each other within the constraints (such time and space constraints) because life is hardly, and in fact, never ideal or perfect.
Myth : A marriage without sex is doomed
Truth: Love and relationships are two of the most complicated concepts to define. Lots of different events and circumstances can come into play, which can enhance, destroy, or confuse feelings of love and commitment.
Partners do not always have the same level of emotional connectedness, or the same sexual interests. A relationship can become unhealthy or even abusive. A pregnancy changes the relationship between parenting partners, as do the natural changes in our bodies as we age. A person’s physical and spiritual connection to their partner can wane. Adding to all these, the toils of everyday life can take over your love and sex lives.
When couples have different sleeps cycles, sexual drives, coping strategies in life, the lack of sex can happen. The lack of sex is not an issue until it is an issue for one of the person in the couplehood.
Myth: A "real man" can last all night long
Truth: This myth would have you believe that if a man is not capable of maintaining a cucumber-hard erection and performing all night, he is an incompetent lover.
Men typically reach orgasm 5 to 10 minutes after the start of penile-vaginal intercourse, taking into account their desires and those of their partners.
A good erection is dependent on how good the blood supply is to your penis. Hence, men who have any kind of vascular problems have high chances of their erection being affected. Smoking affects the blood vessels making them less pliable and less compliant. Avoid smoking, fatty foods and cholesterol-rich foods. Exercising and eating healthy are good things. Whatever affects the vascular system affects your erection.
Myth: Bigger is better
Truth: This has to be the most well-known myth, especially since guys tease or insult each other about being small in size. The penis is a symbol of male identity, sexuality, and masculinity, which is why size is often fussed over among men. The notion that a larger penis equates to someone who is more masculine has, in turn, led men to think or feel that bigger is better.
Size has little to no relation to sexual performance. If he asks you if what you think of his penis, know that he is actually asking for reassurance. Encourage him to appreciate his body for what it is – healthy, functioning and perfectly normal.
Myth: Your vagina is your most powerful sex organ
Truth: This is patently false. Your mind is your most powerful sex organ, and your skin is your largest one! The brain programs our sexual function, our reproductive behaviour and our sex drive. Hence, it has the potential to be our most powerful tool for accessing mind-blowing sex. This applies for both men and women.
We can use our minds to fantasise about anything – even the impossible or seemingly unattainable. Fantasies are healthy and normal as long as you can separate them from reality and accept (and sometimes appreciate) that you may not be able to fulfill them. For many, fantasies should remain that way they are – fantasies – as reality creates potential for letdown.
Myth: You need a penis for sex to occur
Truth: There are tremendous anxieties revolving around the hardness of penis as well as how long it stays that way. The assumption is that the man’s penis is central to a woman’s sexual satisfaction. Ironically, the penis is just a small part of what might be needed to have a wonderful sexual experience. Therefore, sex should be viewed as more than just penetration.
Orgasms are a very individualistic thing — there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. Whatever works, feels good, and makes you feel more alive and connected with your partner is what counts. Men will do well in focusing on making her feel important, loved and cared for, and establishing an intimate, emotional, physical, and mental connection, rather than on the tool.
Myth: You can tell a man's size from his body parts
Truth: There is a myth based on the premise that you can tell how big someone’s penis is by measuring their feet, hands, or nose. There is no scientific proof of a correlation between body part size and penis size.
It is true that there are certain genes that control the development of the limbs which also control the development of the penis in the embryonic stage. Yet, when it comes to fully-developed males, there is no absolute relation between the size of the penis and the size of the limbs or other body parts.