1. Invest in who invests in you
Too often in life, we invest in people that show us no interest. We invest in people that give us bad behaviour. Don’t invest in someone based on how much you like them. Invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.
2. Show different sides of you
It’s the combination of qualities that makes us really attractive. Not just being dominant in one area. Matthew likes to call this “unique pairings.” If you have two qualities in you that you don’t normally find in the same person – that’s a unique pairing.
3. Build a rich life around your dating life
Doing this will help you build a safety net to hedge against anything that could happen. If you know that you can walk away from any person and go back to an amazing social life with your friends, a job that fulfills you, and wonderful relationships with family.
4. Show DESIRE Without Dependence
It is a delicate balance, but really you just have to remember that while you may be into him, you’re not DEPENDENT on him to have a good time. Any time you are able to show both of these qualities, you are making yourself incredibly valuable in a man’s eyes.
5. Don’t Jump The Gun
Remember: Just because you have a connection, doesn’t mean you are ready to make a commitment. Give it time and invest gradually when you see he’s really invested in you. The worst thing you can do at when dating is artificially push things forward by assuming commitment too early.
6. Give Him A Chance To Miss You
Resist the temptation to spend entire weekends generally “hanging out” doing nothing with him. When you make yourself scarce, it will make a guy want to chase you even more so he can have a bigger spot in your life. Plus it shows him you’re a woman who values her time, who won’t simply ditch her priorities because she has a new man in her life.
7. Let Him Know Your Boundaries
Men respond to women who show self-respect. And this means sticking to your own boundaries. If a guy calls you at 10pm and it’s obvious he’s only after sex, then stay away. Show him that you’re not there just to be a booty call and if he’s a keeper, he’ll respect your boundaries.
8. Build Excitement And Anticipation
Every budding relationship needs to be nurtured on two sides: EXCITEMENT and COMFORT. Comfort involves ‘connection’ type of behaviours, like having long conversations and going to the movies, being intimate, opening up and being vulnerable. Excitement encompasses all of the behaviours that keep things fun and interesting. It might be as simple as sending him a text saying “Can’t stop thinking about you”.