1. Celebrate Little Victories
Work it à la Victoria Beckham, who spares no effort in celebrating her kids’ achievements whether big or small. From Harper’s ‘Excellent Reading’ sticker, to Romeo’s sportsmanship at a tennis session and Cruz’s singing chops – VB makes sure to tell the world how much love and pride she feels, complete with the hashtag #proudmummy.
2. Make The ‘BGR’ Talk Relatable
How many times have you tried to broach the topic with the best of intentions, but ended up clearing your throat or changing topics abruptly? Here’s how one mum does it: “I’ll use the TV scenarios to talk about BGR, like if a character was an ideal partner or not, according to the traits shown in the programme.”
3. Learn Their Lingo
More than knowing how they think, the next step is in learning how they speak and they’ll be more likely to respond positively to the things you have to say. Casually fit in words such as ‘jelly’ (jealous), ‘YOLO’ (you only live once) or YOYO (you are only young once), and ‘cray’ (crazy) into your conversations, and their friends might even say that your “Cool Mum Game’s Strong” (another youth lingo).
4. Remember To Praise
Just be careful to always remember your power as a parent – your words carry weight and can mean more to your child than they care to show. Especially if you have more than one kid, if you do give hugs or compliments, make sure every family child gets it and no one is left out. Because, even the cool chickid will succumb to teddy bear hugs too.
5. Be Their Listening Ear
When a kid comes to you and shares their problem, the tendency to quickly swoop in like a mother hen to rescue the day is very strong. Before you do that, check if they are replying with ‘Yes, but…’ or ‘What if…’ – these tell you that they weren’t asking for a solution; they were looking for a listening ear. Be the parent that takes time to listen and quietly influences, because if you don’t, outsiders will.