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“Airbrushing Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself” Jameela Jamil Dishes On Self-Love, Muting People And The Perils Of Photoshop

Actress and activist Jameela Jamil and Sara Kubric (@milennial.therapist) share their thoughts on self-love, overcoming self-doubt and toxicity in your life

by Elizabeth Lee  /   March 12, 2021

One is an outspoken actress and activist previously featured on the cover of The Weekly‘s March 2020 issue. The other, a writer and therapist spreading positivity to her 796,000 followers on Instagram. Together, Jameela Jamil and Sara Kuburic have plenty of say on the topics of self-love and self-worth, and how to overcome bullying, toxicity and unrealistic expectations.

It’s not often you find a celebrity so willing to call out bullsh*t publicly on social media, but The Good Place actress is known for doing just that, especially when it comes to feminism, mental health and dangerous weight loss products and methods. As the founder of I Weigh, an inclusive movement and community that champions body positivity, Jamil is the perfect ambassador for The Body Shop’s ‘Rise Up With Self-Love’ campaign.

Jameela Jamil is a British actress and activist. Photo: The Body Shop

Joining her is Kuburic, known famously for her moniker @millennial.therapist on Instagram. From dishing out bite-sized practical info about mental health to daily reminders about self-love and acceptance, many have turned to her for advice, especially during difficult lockdowns across the world.

So why a ‘Rise Up With Self-Love’ campaign? The beauty brand recently released a study called the The Body Shop’s Global Self Love Index which unveiled startling facts. Did you know? One in two women feel more self-doubt than self-love. 60 per cent of women wish they had more respect for themselves. And interestingly, people with lower levels self-love said they felt more negatively about themselves after the start of the pandemic. The survey, done in 2020 and involving 22,000 people from 21 countries, shows us we have a serious problem when it comes to self-love.

Over a 30min Zoom call, we set down with Jamil and Kuburic to discuss this phenomenon, and well as ways to overcome self-doubt and defeat bullies (both on the inside, or in Jamil’s case, the paparazzi and naysayers on social media).

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“Airbrushing Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself” Jameela Jamil Dishes On Self-Love, Muting People And The Perils Of Photoshop
Hi Jameela, in an industry that demands perfection, you’ve been outspoken against airbrushing and Photoshop. What has been the driving force behind that?
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Jameela Jamil (JJ): Women are inherently gorgeous in our own way, and I want us to feel better about things like lines, or a lack of symmetry. Especially as an ethnic minority, I don’t want my skin lightened; I don’t want my nose to be made smaller to look more Eurocentric. I want to look like where I’m from, and I want to look that way with pride. This is just something I’m doing to protect myself because when I was twelve, I hate the way I looked. I wanted to be white, and now I understand why. So, I just want to discourage that practice because it can be very damaging.

Beauty is subjective and it’s not for any one individual, or any group to decide what is beautiful. I don’t want [my images] photoshop[ped], not just because I’m trying to virtue signal. I don’t want airbrushing because it makes me feel bad about myself. And that’s the thing, when we edit our own photographs we’re setting ourselves up for failure [by comparing ourselves to the] impossible standards set by technology.

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What's your self-love routine?
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Sarah Kubric (SK): Protecting my time has been a really huge thing for me during the pandemic — given the  work I do — and so I think boundary-setting has been one of the biggest ways that I’ve shown myself love. I just think there’s no better way to show myself love than to not do the things I don’t want to do, not spend energy on people I don’t want to spend energy on and not be someone who I’m not. I think having that space to be alone [is important] and choosing the types of conversations that I want to have.

JJ: I like writing down a list of the things that make me a whole human, especially since I’m in an industry where people are constantly scrutinising the way I look. And the other thing I do for self-care is I sit in my bedroom and I mute and unfollow people. I find that to be very good for my skin. It makes my skin softer and smell better.

SK: You can tell?

JJ: [Laughs] Because I get rid off all the toxins from my timeline.So that’s one of my favourite sports and self-care activities. I have a very strong thumb from all my unfollowing that I do and muting!

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How can we teach young people that their worth and value transcends beyond their social media presence?
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SK: If we put as much effort into the relationship we have with ourselves as we do in trying to have it with other people, that would have a very massive shift. That would also change the way that we present in social media as well. Because most of that stems from wanting attention, acknowledgement and appreciation. None of these things are wrong, but I think the way that social media is set up, the way that we do it, and the way we try to get [attention] can be quite harmful for us.

JJ:  First of all, identify the things that are real values, things that you’ll remember at the end of your life. It’s ok, for the way that you look to be in your top 10 of priorities, but it cannot take up your entire 10. So let’s start filling that space slowly but surely, with more meaningful values.

Write down a list — every day if you have to — of everything that you are, everything you contribute to society, everything you have experienced, everything you’ve overcome, everything you like about yourself and what you mean to other people. There’s something about the practice of writing that down that that neurologically seems to settle more in your brain as a belief system.

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Sarah Kubric is a writer and therapist. Photo: The Body Shop
Women tend to be overly critical of ourselves. How do we defeat our inner bully?
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JJ: I listen out for the inner bully in my brain constantly. It’s a smart inner bully that has learned all of the rhetoric from toxic things around us. Once you learn how to listen out for that, you can identify it quicker and learn to stick up for yourself. I interrupt those thoughts and say out loud “No, you can’t talk to me that way. That’s not true.” And I’m sure I look… quirky when I’m out in public if I do that, but sometimes that’s what it takes to shut this practiced, abuser in my head up.

We [also] need to be very careful about what we say to each other as well. Try to switch your compliments to other about what they’re wearing, or how funny or how smart they are. This will genuinely start to build up not only their value system about results, but your own.

SK: Similarly, it’s about monitoring the way I speak to myself because that shapes the relationship you have with yourself, just like how the way you communicate with a loved one will ultimately shape the relationship you form with them. What I actually do is tell myself “I didn’t deserve to be spoken to that way” and I make myself apologise [and] reframe what I was trying to communicate. This is something that I’ve been really intentional about that takes a lot of time in my head, but I think it’s so important.

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What was the best compliment you've ever received?
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SK: The compliment that stands out to me is that people feel like they can be themselves around me. That’s one of the biggest gifts I try to offer other people and myself. So if you feel like when you’re talking to me, you can show up as yourself, that to me is a beautiful compliment. That to me, means I’m doing something right, and I’m connecting in a genuine, vulnerable way that I think is just so needed.

JJ: When the tabloids tried to start a smear campaign against me and lie about me [laughs]. I take that as the greatest compliment because it means that I must be doing something and scaring them because you only work really hard to destroy something that you’re afraid of. I take that as the highest compliment and encouragement that I must carry on.

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