Sometimes, relationships fall apart. But for a couple to be granted divorce in Singapore, you have to prove that there is no going back for the both of you. Ways to show this include adultery, unreasonable behaviour, and desertion, as well as separation (three years with consent, and four years without consent).
Usually, one will bring the other to court, resulting in one being the plaintiff and the other as the defendant. This means that whether you both agreed to the divorce, both of you will be set up as opponents, with one being the bad guy and the other as a victim.
Jasmine* filed for divorce after catching her husband in bed with his colleague one evening when she’d wanted to surprise him during his business trip to Kuala Lumpur. While he acknowledged the affair, he wanted custody of their three kids and the matrimonial home. Disappointed and outraged, the 45-year-old real estate agent would spend the next few years fighting – and winning – a costly legal battle against her ex-husband.