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Are You A Mentally Strong Woman? Ask Yourself These 13 Questions

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Are You A Mentally Strong Woman? Ask Yourself These 13 Questions

This International Woman’s Day, celebrate and better yourself as a strong, independent woman

November 2, 2020

From our own personal growth to becoming a source of inspiration for others, everybody deserves to take some time to reflect, rejoice, and also re-evaluate.

13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do, a book by Amy Morin, discusses what we’re prone to think or do as women. The psychotherapist and psychology instructor believes that habits like these can be overcome over time. We use this gauge to see how strong our current mentality is, and what we can do to work on it.

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Are You A Mentally Strong Woman? Ask Yourself These 13 Questions
Do you compare yourself with others?
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Social media can be our worst friend in this aspect. But keeping your eyes on everyone else means your view is away from your own goals — that’s how counterproductive it is.

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Do you insist on perfection?
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Morin emphasises that perfection causes us to experience great levels of stress, and ironically enough, sabotages our performance. She outlines that high expectations are good, but perfection is a big no. If you tend to be a perfectionist, here are some tips to help you turn it into a strength (without burning out).

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Do you see vulnerability as a weakness?
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This is hard for so many us, we know. But it does us only good to admit our weaknesses and to ask for help when we need it. We don’t always have all the answers.

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Do you let self-doubt prevent you from achieving your dreams?
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We are big second-guessers, right? We don’t believe that we are good/smart/talented/competent/experienced/attractive enough to get what we really want. Don’t let your own thoughts trip you up. Just go for it.

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Do you overthink everything?
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Do you find yourself overanalysing a thing half to death, staying awake at night wondering if you’ve said the right words to your boss in an email? Morin is right, it’s a terrible waste of time, and just adds more stress to life. Here are some toxic mindsets to break and take control of your thought life once again.

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Do you run away when the going gets tough?
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Do you go into flight mode when challenges arise? We’re not talking about physically leaving, but more like avoiding situations such as being given a chance for a promotion, or needing to have an honest conversation with someone close to you. Put on your big girl pants and just take the plunge.

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Are you afraid to break the rules?
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This is not about driving at 100 kilometers an hour in a 40-kilometer zone. It’s just that we women are conditioned to be very good at keeping all the rules. But sometimes you just have to stick your neck out and break a rule or two. Think of all the women who broke through glass ceilings when they were told they couldn’t.

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Do you put others down in order to boost yourself up?
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Maybe you don’t mean to, but sometimes we end up putting a spotlight on someone else’s mistakes because it makes us look better. It’s not worth it, and if you look deep inside, that’s not what your authentic self really thinks is worth doing.

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Do you let someone else set limits on your potential?
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It could be your parents, older siblings (who think they know you so well), or maybe even your significant other. They may say something that dampens your passion for something, and you find yourself discouraged from pursuing it. Don’t allow this to happen. Be the captain of your own destiny.

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Do you blame yourself when things go south?
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Self-blame is one of the best ways to stop you from progressing. Let’s face it, bad outcomes happen to us all, it’s part of life. And yes, sometimes, things are your fault. But be able to draw the line between your character and your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on.

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Do you refuse to speak up?
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This is still part of our ‘good girl’ conditioning, isn’t it? We are trained to sit back and let the others (many times the men) do the talking. You have something important to contribute to every conversation, to every meeting that you’re in. Not that you want to hog the spotlight, but when you do have something to say, speak up!

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Are you reluctant to reinvent yourself?
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Here’s another truth nugget: you won’t be the same person in your 30s, 40s, or 50s that you were in your 20s. People evolve, it’s part of the beauty of life. You update your look regularly, right? The same goes with your personality, career choice, lifestyle et cetera.

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Are you afraid of owning your success?
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There’s modesty, and there’s the fear of coming across as over ambitions or even arrogant. But you know that your successes are hard-earned. Own that. Bask in it. That’s far more truthful than denying what a success you are.

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