Do you feel like you are being pulled in a million directions and never have any time or energy left for you? It is time to discover the power of saying, “No, thank you”, “Not now” and “Not ever”. One of the first words that children learn – almost right after mama and dada, is “NO”. By the age of two, children know how to say “No” to the things they do not want to do. As parents, we even encourage them to say “No” to wrong touching. We know that saying “no” sometimes is necessary for their physical and emotional health.
But when we get older, we lose the ability to say No. Somehow it becomes easier to say “Yes” – even if you really do not want to do it. You end up running around, trying to keep everyone else happy and do what they need. By the end of the day, you have no energy left for the things you want to do. You feel exhausted, frustrated and resentful.
The trouble is that we often worry that saying “No” will make people hate us. We want to be liked, and so we say yes to a million and one requests. But the good news is that you can learn how to create clear boundaries in your life and actually do the things you want to do for yourself – and you can still be liked. Here’s how to start that process;