The problem: We all have certain expectations and ideals when it comes to what we want out of a marriage or relationship. For example, you might think that your husband should be financially supporting you more but he doesn’t agree.

When our expectations aren’t fulfilled, arguments can sometimes occur, causing constant friction in a relationship.

The solution: Talk it out and see if your expectations are valid. Often times, there’s always a work around to certain expectations.

The problem: You have a tendency to compete with your partner in segments of your life like work, money and achievements.

The solution: Separate work life from home and change your mindset. Realise that a marriage or a r lationship isn’t about competition but about supporting one another.

The problem: After being married or in a relationship for years, it’s easy to get comfortable and complacent when it comes to maintaining and sustaining the excitement in a relationship.

The solution: Take a step back and realise that a marriage is a constant work in progress. Listen to your partner and anticipate their needs. Once in a while, make it a point to surprise them and take the initiative to do something special for them too. It’ll make them feel special and it might reignite the spark between you both.

The problem: There’s a difference between your partner listening to your problems and being your punching bag. It’s easy to view your partner as an outlet to drop all your emotional baggage on because you’re familiar with them. But too much can cause your partner to feel like they’re being emotionally abused and no one really wants to have to deal with that.

The solution: Understand that your partner isn’t your punching bag and learn to separate work and home life. Once at home, stop complaining about work or whatever it is that’s bothering with you. If you can’t, find other outlets to relieve the stress and frustrations you feel. [pullquote][/pullquote]

The problem: With our hectic lives, it’s easy to forget to pay attention to our partners and realise their needs. We’re often putting work ahead of the people we love and tend to forget their need for attention and affection from us.

The solutions: Make it a point to spend time with them. While at dinner, switch your phone off to fully concentrate on your partner and really enjoy being in their company.