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10 Things You Can Do If Your Child Prefers Your Maid

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10 Things You Can Do If Your Child Prefers Your Maid

What can you, as a working mum, do to catch up with your maid or win your baby’s trust? Consider these 10 pointers from a child psychologist.

February 2, 2017

At a recent family gathering, your relatives criticised you for having to rely on your domestic helper to soothe your crying baby or get him to nap.

The comments made you feel ashamed that you don’t understand your little one as much as your helper does.

What can you, as a working mum, do to catch up with your maid or win your baby’s trust? Consider these 10 pointers from child psychologist, Dr Richard Woolfson.

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10 Things You Can Do If Your Child Prefers Your Maid
1. Don't Get Jealous
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First things first: understand that your baby is capable of forming an emotional bond with more than one adult.

He might share a connection with your helper, but that doesn’t mean he is unable to establish and maintain one with you.

2. Get Involved In Your Child's Routine
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Maybe you are tired at the end of a workday and would prefer to flop into a chair, but feeding your little one, or bathing and changing him can bring the two of you closer together.

Instead of leaving every baby-care task to your helper, get involved whenever you can – and even more so on days when you’re not working.

3. Relax And Enjoy
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Have fun together – playing, singing, talking and cuddling – as well. True, parenting is a serious business, but it should also be enjoyable.

Spend less time worrying about how much the helper can do for your baby, and more time basking in your little one’s company.

4. Don't Stand Back
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If your little one is crying, pick him up to soothe him anyway. Don’t leave him with the helper just because you feel that he prefers her. 

Ignore his initial protest when you carry him and don’t take it personally.

5. Have Confidence In Yourself
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Look on your baby’s reaction as normal and healthy. 

He just needs time to adjust to you and other members in the family.

Constantly remind yourself that you are an effective, caring parent. 

6. Talk To Your Helper
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Let her know you want to get more involved with your little one, and ask her to encourage his excitement in anticipation of your return at the end of the day.

When you are at work, try to find ways to communicate with your kid. 

For example, you could speak to him on the phone during your lunch break. He’ll recognise the sound of your voice.

You might even be able to Facetime with him from your smartphone.

7. Don't Blame Yourself
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As long as you have a close connection with your child and are confident that your helper takes good care of him while you are away at work, you have nothing to feel guilty about. 

Instead, feel pleased that you have good childcare arrangements in place.

8. Reconsider Arrangements
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If you continue to be troubled by the thought that you are not spending enough time with your baby, no matter how much you reassure yourself, then explore alternative care arrangements.

You could, perhaps, work part-time instead of full-time, or request to work from home on some days.

9. Do Some Tasks On Your Own
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If your kids are always with their helper during the weekedays, spend more time with them on weekends. 

While the helper does the house work, helps your kids with their homework, cook for them or play with them. They’ll associate these good memories with you. 

10. Consider Heading Out Without The Helper
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During the weekends or even weekdays during dinner, consider heading out without your helper to have more private family time. 

Text: Young Parents

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