It is every working parent’s greatest paradox: You need a live-in maid to care for baby, yet you worry about her hurting your child.
The most important thing is to choose your live-in helper very carefully. Don’t just employ the first helper who’s available at the agency. If you don’t like her for any reason during the interview – even if it’s just a gut feeling – look for someone else.
Naturally, you want someone with references, but remember that these can be faked. One way is to call the referees provided and find out for yourself.
Your infant can’t tell you when she has been abused, shaken or manhandled because she can’t speak yet. But look out for these telltale signs:
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She might change from being outgoing to withdrawn, from being alert to passive, and so on. Be wary of such unexplained changes.
Children can get hurt when playing, but all injuries should have a good explanation. One bruise can be accidental; two should start to make you concerned.
If she tenses up when handled by the maid, and she is not like that with anyone else, there may be an underlying concern.
That could be enthusiasm, but she might also be trying to cover up redness, scratches and other injuries.
None of these signs on their own mean your infant is at risk, but if you think your helper might be mistreating your baby, speak to her about it.
Resist the temptation to make an allegation. Have a friendly chat, explain your worries and hear what she has to say.
If your doubts remain, it’s time to find someone else. Only this time, choose more carefully.
(This story first appeared on Young Parents)