You can feel when an argument is coming. Tensions rise, eye-rolls ensue and voices elevate. Conflict is common in a relationship, but there’s a difference between a tiff that can result in positive change, and a spat that ends in the division of assets.
Researchers at the Gottman Relationship Institute have identified five of the most common, destructive patterns in arguments.
Couples that fall into these patterns are far more likely to break up than those who bicker in more constructive ways, but if you find yourself in these heated exchanges, all hope is not lost.
If you want to save your relationship, a key step is being able to identify these types of arguments, and learn not only how to avoid them, but to learn and grow from them.