Be the waterboy, read up on pregnancy, and think twice before letting any jokes fly
Things not to say? Maybe joke less or not at all haha. I love to poke fun at things to make them less serious but these days, I find myself fighting hard to hold back the urge to do so.
For instance, I introduced her to one of my clients recently, who was dating a flight attendant. So I mentioned to him that my wife used to fly too, adding “Ya, you can’t tell right?” I was joking because obviously, she’s the most beautiful to me. But let’s just say that didn’t end too well.
I think that both of us are excited but also learning to accept that our life will change and the wild days are never going to be the same. When she’s tired, joking about things like, “Wow you used to be a lot more fun to be with” (in my head, again, I was obviously joking) definitely won’t go well with her. Anything about her appearance is a no-go, especially when she’s pregnant.
As for how to men can support their wives:
1. Reassurance: Always be there for them physically and vocally — remind them that you’re on this journey with them.
2. OB or prenatal appointments: Nothing can be more worth your time — MAKE THE TIME! It’s quite sad to see pregnant mums who are at the hospital going to their checkups alone. If you can’t make time now… what happens when the kid comes?
3. Be the waterboy: Imagine a football team, she is the whole damn team. You are the waterboy. Whatever she needs, you get it and get it fast.
4. Show interest: It’s a new experience for both, of course as it’s in her body she would spend more time learning about everything related to pregnancy. I find spending time with her looking at videos, reading articles about pregnancy, the baby’s growth and things to prep comforting for her and the both of us.
– Faiq Zulkifli, 28, father-to-be
