When you pick up your child from childcare, does he seem relieved, as though he’s been waiting for you to show up and rescue him? Kids can go through separation anxiety and miss you, but if your child seems very upset when you drop him off or pick him up, he might be trying to tell you something is wrong.

Instead of letting the childcare teachers or your maid bathe your kid all the time, be sure to do it regularly so you can inspect his body. There shouldn’t be bruises and scratches on your little one that show up repeatedly. An isolated mark here and there is probably nothing to worry about, but it’s a bad sign when there are many such marks. A well-trained teacher would volunteer information about scratches and bruises, which could be the result of playing. If the teachers fail to mention multiple marks, it could mean they have something to hide. 

Communicate regularly with your child’s teachers, even if you aren’t the one dropping him off at childcare. Call them to check in once in a while, even while you’re at work, if you have any worries regarding your child. Voice your concerns in a polite and pleasant manner, so the teachers don’t feel like they’re being nagged or interrogated. If the teachers seem to resent the calls or appear indifferent, it means the centre doesn’t have your kid’s interest – or yours – at heart. 

Most of us know our fellow childcare parents only by face, but befriending them can be very beneficial. Many times, parents are rushing off to work during the morning drop-off, but do stay and talk to your kid’s classmate’s parents once in a while during evening pick-ups. It’s a great chance to find out if other parents are satisifed with the centre, and if their children are happy there. If you have concerns, see if the other parents agree with you, so you can approach the situation together. 

As a parent, you should know your child best, and be aware of his usual temperament, routine and behaviour. If something seems ‘off’ (e.g. he is more distant than usual, exhibits anti-social behaviour or seems fearful), this should be a warning sign that something could be wrong at daycare. Ultimately, trust your instincts as your child will communicate with you through his actions, and not necessarily through words.