Mother, wife, founder, and vice president. How do you juggle all these roles?
Someone once told me that if you’re doing what you love, you’re not working a single day of your life. For my day job, I’m in finance — it pays the bills and I’ve been doing that for the past 17 years. It’s become routine.
But ever since I founded Tambapanni Collective and started curating the best of Sri Lankan luxury, working with designers and top artists… I honestly don’t feel like I’m working. It’s as exciting and relaxing as watching a Netflix series.
We had a big event in Singapore with many prominent Sri Lankan individuals recently. It was stressful putting it all together. But at the end of the day, because I love everything Sri Lanka has to offer, I didn’t find it stressful at all.
There are times when I wish I had a bit more time for family. But you just need to give your 100 per cent when you know you’ve got something great in front of you that you love.
What are your tips on balancing work and family?
To me, the most important thing is to prioritise and not feel guilty about what you want to do. A lot of mums say: “I want to do this, but if I do this, then I’m going to miss out on that.”
At the end of the day, they are not able to do well at work or at home because there’s just constant guilt that keeps overshadowing whichever role they want to play. So whether it’s being a wife, a mother, or a professional, we need to ask ourselves what makes us happy.
I believe that if we take care of ourselves, we can take care of the people around us. So when I asked myself if I was happy, I realised I wasn’t. I used to stress about my job and feel like I was missing out on spending time with the kids. But I realised that because of this, I wasn’t my best version at work or with my kids.
When I started Tambapanni Collective, I felt like I found my purpose in life. Who knew that someone in the finance industry would be working with designers and doing fashion and art shows? I prioritise what makes me happy and when I come home, my children and husband see that difference. And children always want to draw on their mum’s positive energy.
Of course, there was a learning curve. When I first had my daughter, I wanted to quit my job and stay at home just to take care of her. But I realised I wasn’t a happy person sitting at home all the time. So the key thing is to be brutally honest with yourself.