Some married couples may find it silly or even embarrassing to engage in such behaviour, but clinical sexologists beg to differ. Studies have shown that higher levels of sexting were linked to greater sexual satisfaction, especially among those who are in a relationship.
Not sure how to sext? Or maybe you and your partner are looking to add some sizzle to your marriage? Here’s how…
Sexting builds big anticipation and hints at things to come, say experts. The right tone can put you two in a sexy mood hours before you see each other and set the stage for a passionate night. Just keep the texts short, but spiked with juicy details.
Don’t let nervousness and fear of sounding silly get in the way. It’s normal to feel a little embarrassed, but think about how hot you’ll sound to your partner when he gets that saucy text from you.
Be coy and build the anticipation – let him wait in between messages – always taking a bit longer to respond than he does. If you tell him what you’re wearing as soon as he asks, he won’t have any time to fantasise about what it might be.
Do what makes you feel comfortable. If your partner asks you to send a picture and you’re a bit nervous, ease into things using the funny approach: Take a picture of your eyes or cheeck and send it with a text reading “guess what body part this is.” Sexting should be fun.
This is crucial, you wouldn’t want your husband’s colleague accidentally seeing a picture of you naked! Ask him beforehand if he’s alone, as this ensures that he’s the only one looking at your texts.
Don’t just send him phrases like “Can’t wait for you to get home”, be descriptive and tell him what you’d like to do to him when he gets home. Not only will it make him excited, but it would definitely put him in the mood the moment he gets home.
Instead of telling him what you’re wearing, be coy about it and say, “Guess what I’m wearing underneath my dress?” and when he can’t guess any longer, let him know that he’ll find out when he gets home.
Especially if you have taken any raunchy pictures! You wouldn’t want your kid to accidentally open up a sexy picture now, would you? Remind your partner to delete the photos as well!
The most important thing when you’re sexting is to enjoy what you’re doing. If it feels as though you have to force yourself to do this, then it will not be as much fun as it would be for the both of you. So have fun and sext away!
Text: Bauer/ Woman’s Day/ Additional Reporting: Shenielle Aloysis