One of the best parts of having sex is knowing just how much your partner wants to be involved, so don’t take that away from the experience. Show them just how much you enjoy being there and going down on them. Trust us, even if he thinks the blowjob didn’t go so well, he’ll still appreciate the enthusiasm.

Alternatively, put on a show! Dirty talk, moan and maybe take breaks in between by making out with him instead of constantly sucking on his penis. Throw in a few sexy glances while you’re at it! He’ll appreciate the changeup and you’ll get a chance to ‘breathe’ in between. Ultimately, try to have fun and don’t fixate too much on trying to make him come.

We know it’s called a blowjob but, don’t forget to use your hands too! Not only does using your hands change things up, it gives your neck a break and it might just make him come more easily. Start by placing your one hand just below your mouth as you’re going up and down on him. Once you’ve gotten used to the motion, alternate between giving him a handjob and a blowjob. Just remember not to hold on too tightly and lubricate in between when you’re giving him a handjob.

For some, the thought of giving a blowjob can be intimidating and we honestly don’t blame you. No one is born in this world with the intrinsic knowledge of blowjobs but it can be learned. Reading up and educating yourself on how to give a proper blowjob and in some cases, watching porn, could help give you a little more confidence. We’re not saying you’ve got to imitate what you see in porn — ultimately every partner is different and could prefer different things — but porn can be a good way to see how things are done when you don’t have anyone else to speak to about how blowjobs are done.

If you’re struggling or intimidated about giving your partner a blowjob, perhaps it’s best to just speak to your partner about it. Ask him what he likes and ask if he could provide feedback while you’re going down on him. It might sound awkward but being open to feedback could help you improve your game. Talking to your partner about what he likes in bed opens up communication channels between the two of you which means you can also bring up the things you like and dislike while in bed. Keep in mind that it’s important to receive these comments with an open mind.

A little disclaimer on this one, not everyone is a fan of having their balls touched, so make sure you check in with your partner beforehand. If he’s a fan of some ball play, always remember to keep things light and playful. You could always start with gentle strokes with your hand while you’re sucking on his penis and slowly move down towards giving him a handjob while you lick his balls. As long as you’re gentle and communicate, we’re sure he’ll enjoy it.

Whether it’s a vibrator, lubricant and any other bedside necessities, having them on hand can make giving a blowjob a more pleasant experience. Introducing toys such as a vibrator (you could easily bring yours into the mix!), prostate massager and more could keep things interesting and take the pressure off you to perform.

Sometimes, the easiest way to make things a little more exciting in bed is a change in locations. Instead of going down on him while in bed, initiate something while the two of you are watching TV on the couch. You could join him while he’s taking a shower and go down on him as well. Trying to interject a little fun into your sex lives doesn’t necessarily require herculean efforts, sometimes all it needs is a little change up from the routine!

Text: Atika Lim/Cleo

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