Many of us enter a committed relationship thinking we’ve found the person of our dreams. And for the first 18 months or so this can seem like the case. But when the gloss wears off and the relationship becomes more grounded in reality, dissatisfaction can too easily set in – unless we take action.
Sarah Napthali, author of the internationally acclaimed Buddhism for Mothers series, has released her latest book Buddhism for Couples. It applies Buddhist principles to relationships to help us better understand our behaviours and be able to counteract the apathy and negativity that afflicts many long-term matches. But it’s a relationship book with a difference: Napthali, a long-term practitioner of Buddhist teachings, reveals she is not an expert and doesn’t have all the answers.
“I really cringe at self-help books where you are spoken down to by an all-knowing expert,” she says. “In my books, I talk as an imperfect person because I think you learn so much from other people’s mistakes.” Here, Napthali reveals how Buddhist ideas can transform our relationships for the better.