Being in a new relationship is fun. But it can also be daunting. Most of the time, you’re getting to know someone from scratch, and analysing everything they say and do to help you decide if they’re a good person. If you’re at the stage of your life where you’re looking for a long-term partner, there could be even more pressure for you to come to the conclusion quickly, whether or not they’re worth your time.
We all have lists of qualities we look for in a partner. And our past relationship experiences, coupled with what we’ve been told by others (friends, family, society, the internet) we should look for in a partner, shape how we see them too. For example, we know that there are certain ‘red flags’ we should pay attention to so we don’t invest too much time in a lost cause.
However, we shouldn’t be so quick to judge. Some qualities in a person that could seem like a ‘red flag’ could turn out to be the opposite. In the long term, these are deemed as ‘green flags’ and desirable qualities in a partner.