While some couples are happy with not having much sex in their relationships, other couples are facing the issue of mismatched libidos, which can end up causing a rift in their marriages. And we get it — it might not be easy to bring this up with your partner, and you don’t want him to feel threatened or cornered. But what can you do when you’re in a sexless marriage – one where you want more intimacy than he’s able to give?
Take Catherine* for example. She was married to a fit, healthy, high-flying alpha male, but the trouble was, he was never in the mood for sex. While friends bemoaned their husbands’ insatiable sexual demands, Catherine went for weeks, months and then a year without making love to her husband.
“I felt totally rejected, bewildered, frustrated, angry, but mostly just sad,” she says. “And so alone. Why is it that my husband does not want to have sex with me?”
Since splitting from her husband and feeling free to confide their bedroom blues, however, countless female friends have shared a similar tale.
“I have started to think perhaps our sex life was not that unusual,” Catherine says.
Interestingly, Catherine may be on to something…