When your partner does not want sex as much as you do, it is hard not to take it personally. But it’s very common for one person in a relationship to want sex more than the other. Because your sex drive is influenced by how your marriage is evolving, and everything else going on in your life, from stress at work, to caring for your kids, and even weird distractions like cold feet.
Your expectations of what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ with your relationship can can also affect your sex drive. For example, if you feel your husband is not carrying enough of the shared load at home, it can naturally start to irritate you! Not a very sexy feeling.
Your expectations of what is normal can also play a part. Sex and relationship expert Dr Gabrielle Morrissey explains. “We think, when we find the perfect partner the sex should be great every day. But that is a myth. The reality is that individuals evolve over time and at different paces – and this includes sexual change.”
But if you have been together for decades, a change in your sex life can be awkward and frightening for a couple to face together. So what can you do?