If your husband’s FB page is littered with comments like, “OMG I miss you!” or, “When are we hanging out?” then be very, very wary. Also, keep an eye out for a whole bunch of new “friends”, whose display pictures involve half-naked girls. Sure, it might just mean he has a bunch of innocent friends that dress sexily but it’s more likely that you’re married to a womaniser.

If he calls you by the wrong name more than once, it’s pretty likely he’s been seeing someone who isn’t you. Sometimes it’s easy to slip up when you’re having a vague day (who hasn’t called their teacher “mum” at some stage?) but two strikes and you should confront him.

Womanisers are clever. Be wary if your spouse if always thinking up ways to make you think everything is dandy. The sign of a true player is a man who thinks he’s figured women out. A real gentleman knows he’ll never know anything, but he’s willing to learn.

Watch how he interacts with his female friends. Is it purely platonic? Or is there a bit of flirting? Be honest with yourself. If you see sexual chemistry between him and his female friends, sit down and have a talk with your husband. Get to the root of what bothers you. If he’s genuine, he will stop.

If he’s hanging out with you at home but sending more text messages than necessary – and they’re all to female friends – chances are he’s not that interested in the outcome of your marriage and he’s a womaniser.

Ahhhh yes, the six-digit security code. Men rarely like anyone in their business as it is, so thins one doesn’t necessarily apply to all guys across the board, but if he’s getting annoyed when you so much as glance in his phone’s direction, something shady is going on.

If he stumbles over your name and instead calls you pet names like babe, baby, sweetie, or honey, then something might be up. He might either be very sweet, or he might have a bad memory and doesn’t want to get names mixed up.

…and anything else in a skirt. If you notice your husband checking out other people in public and not attempting to hide it from you, then the signs are pretty obvious. Attraction to other people during a marriage can be normal at times but if you see him acting out on it, tell him that you don’t appreciate his wandering eye.

You have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen.” “You’re gorgeous, and I don’t throw that term around lightly.” “I’ve never been able to open up with a woman the way I have with you.” If he’s throwing all these phrases your way then he probably wants one thing and one thing only. We’ll give you a hint – it’s not your sparkling conversation.

When there’s smoke there’s fire. Some men do change, but a lot don’t, and if he didn’t have a great reputation when you met him he’s probably still the same sort of guy. Try talking to him and laying out your fears, it could do good for the relationship’s longevity.