“I Found Crusty Panties In My Bedroom”— @Dawnbiling Spills The Tea About Ex-Husband’s Cheating

With cheating being a hot topic in the past few months, local content creator Dawn (@dawnbiling) has been gaining traction for candidly recounting and sharing the rough patches in her marriage. Now divorced, she talks openly about how her initial suspicions slowly unfolded into overlapping affairs, gaslighting, moments of forgiveness, and ultimately the breaking point that ended her marriage.

Sharing the events in a series of videos on her Instagram page (which she has dubbed Cheatflix), she has also appeared on Monster TV’s podcast for a tell-it-all with hosts Jade Seah and Jacqueline Khoo. She refers to her ex-husband as her “late husband” — not because he has passed on, but because, in her words, “he’s dead to me”.

The first affair: “The Lesbian”

Dawn married her ex-husband in 2018. Four years later, she sensed something was off.

A female colleague of his — whom Dawn refers to as “the lesbian” — suddenly began acting cold towards her. She refers to her as such because the latter supposedly had a girlfriend at the point of the affair. What Dawn didn’t know at the time was that “the lesbian” had allegedly been in a relationship with her ex-husband years earlier.

My ‘late’ husband and I would walk into a room together, and she would only acknowledge him.

At work events, the colleague would insist that he carry her for photos, brushing it off as humour. Although Dawn felt uncomfortable and voiced it out, her ex-husband dismissed her as being “conservative” and “too sensitive”.

The real turning point came when he asked Dawn to help him navigate by mapping the route on her phone. However, he panicked when she reached for his phone. Up to that point, the couple had shared passwords openly, and Dawn had never felt the need to pry.

That night, for the first time in their relationship, Dawn checked his messages. “I felt that something was really off and I had to trust my intuition.” She discovered flirtatious exchanges and suggestive comments, with “the lesbian” commenting how her new bedsheets were so comfortable and joked that the only way for him to find out is to test it out at her place.

When Dawn confronted him, he denied the affair and according to her, he had told friends that he was planning to divorce Dawn and had called her the “fat hag”.

“I cried for two weeks straight,” she said. “I didn’t know then that I was being gaslit.”

“How much touch was too much”

The couple attempted counselling to save their marriage, but Dawn says the sessions left her more disillusioned than hopeful.

At one point, we were deciding how much was too much touch between him and female colleagues.

She had to explicitly specify that he should not put his hand on a female colleague’s thigh.

“He thought it was perfectly fine,” she said. To her, it’s basic decency. “Why do I even need to specify that?”

Despite everything, Dawn forgave him — multiple times.

Questionable hotel bookings and “me time”

Everything was “getting better” until six months to a year later, when Dawn uncovered hotel bookings that coincided with nights he claimed he was out with “the boys”.

By this point, he had changed his phone password. But one night when he was scrolling Facebook, he fell asleep and the phone fell right on her face — something she describes as “divine intervention”. 

While going through his texts, Dawn noticed that chunks of text with certain people had been deleted. Her curiosity led her to check his emails, where she discovered a trail of hotel bookings. One, in particular, stood out —  it had been made while she was on a week-long work trip to the United States. When she cross-checked the dates with the times he had told her he would be staying late to “chill with the boys” or “wanted me-time”, everything lined up perfectly.

“He said he needed ‘me time’. But I wasn’t even home, he technically had the whole house to himself,” she said.

She confronted him again, but he deflected them by saying that he didn’t know what she was talking about and that it could be credit card fraud.

The physical evidence: “Panty Girl”

Things escalated when Dawn found physical items in their bedroom — full-sized toiletries, “crusty” panties, nipple covers, and even a sweaty sports bra. By then, her ex-husband was no longer living in the house, having been chased out. Meanwhile, she had also temporarily moved to her parents’ place because she needed help caring for their critically ill dog. It was during this time that her ex-husband took the opportunity to move back in.

When she questioned him, he claimed his team had come over for a lohei gathering, and someone must have been too tired and “accidentally” left their underwear behind. He also claimed that he had helped someone to wash the sports bra, to which Dawn questioned, “Then why would he have put it back in the laundry basket?”

Later, Dawn posted about finding the pair of panties on her Instagram, referring to the woman involved as “panty girl”. But then something unexpected happened. One mistress reached out angrily — not because she was a mistress, but because she realised she wasn’t the only one.

“That’s not my panty,” the woman allegedly told her.

At this point, it became clear to Dawn that there were overlapping relationships, there were more than one woman at a time.

The other mistress: “Churros”

The other woman, whom Dawn nicknamed “Churros”, was a mother of two teenagers and worked on projects with her ex-husband.

“Churros” was someone Dawn didn’t really pay attention to, before people reached out telling her that her ex-husband was dating “Churros”. Dawn started searching more about her and found out that “Churros” blocked her on Instagram despite them never interacting.

When she brought it up with her ex-husband, he dismissed it as baseless rumours, claiming he was “so huge in the industry” that people were trying to bring him down. According to Dawn, “Churros” and her ex-husband had gone on a business class trip to Australia together, and she didn’t want Dawn to find out. Dawn also reached out to “Churros”, and the latter said it was platonic and they stayed in separate rooms.

But one day, Dawn returned home to find a food deliveryman walking behind her, all the way to her unit. That’s when she realised that someone at her place had ordered food delivery. When she opened the door, she saw “Churros” inside with her half-naked ex-husband.

On another occasion, Dawn found a framed couple photo of her ex-husband and “Churros” displayed on the bedside table, alongside a pair of couple Care Bears.

How he controlled the narrative

Both women eventually reached out to Dawn.

They told her that her ex-husband had described her as a “crazy psychopath” and claimed that he told them they were already in the midst of splitting up.

When schedules conflicted, he allegedly told both women, “My crazy wife is coming down,” maintaining separate versions of the story to keep them from discovering that he was seeing more than one woman at a time.

The breaking point

According to Dawn, there was no single explosive moment that ended the marriage, but a build-up of incidents. And one ultimately broke the straw on the camel’s back.

When their dog — whom Dawn says was originally her ex-husband’s dog — was diagnosed with cancer, they were given two options: pay for a $20,000 surgery or give it painkillers till it passes away from the pain.

Without hesitation, he told her that he had no money and that she could fork it out if she wanted to, despite, in her words, him earning ‘hundreds and thousands of dollars, and driving a Porsche’.

“This broke my heart more than when he cheated on me,” she said.

She’s not the only one

Many followers have since left messages of support in her comments section, with some even sharing their own experiences with her. Dawn thanked them for opening up about their personal stories and trauma, and has offered words of encouragement in return.

No one goes into a marriage thinking that they’re going to be cheated on. Going through something like that is never easy, and I applaud you for your bravery to step away from a situation that no longer serves you.

“It took me three years to get to this point. There was a point in time where I couldn’t even share this story without breaking up in tears. A lot of people have called me strong but I don’t think I am strong. I decided to share my story to spread awareness.”