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How To Turn A Fight With Your Partner Into A Better Marriage

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How To Turn A Fight With Your Partner Into A Better Marriage

We get expert tips to help strengthen your relationship and family

October 2, 2021

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Fights between husband and wife are part of developing a relationship, explains Edmund Wong, general manager of Touch Community Services and a speaker with Marriage Central. But if you don’t identify the real issue you’re fighting over, you will end up quarrelling over the symptoms, he cautions. “When one wins in a quarrel, it doesn’t mean they have resolved a conflict.” Here are what you should be aware of when resolving fights and conflicts with your partner to build a stronger relationship.

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How To Turn A Fight With Your Partner Into A Better Marriage
Watch out for triggers
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Married couples here tend to argue about kids, in-laws and money matters. “When a baby is born, the family dynamics change – couples need to adapt to a life with an additional family member who needs a lot of attention,” says Wong. “Sometimes, there may be different expectations from either parent when it comes to caring for the new baby.”

Fights with in-laws happen over ways to discipline the kids or childcare issues. Mums and dads also work long hours and may bring home work stress, which affects their communication.

And if a new mum decides to leave her job, this may put stress on the family’s finances, leading to tension at home.

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If you put in the effort to accept your differences or come to a compromise, he says. “A relationship is often tested in a conflict situation.

However, in the process of resolving it, a couple’s connection grows stronger because both parties experience a deeper sense of trust and confidence in each other.”

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Learn to fight well
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Wong observes that women tend to be more emotional while men tend to be less tactful during arguments. So to fight right, you should confront each other at the right time and place. Speak slowly, maintain eye contact, and be conscious of not raising your voice.

“A little humour may help but couples need to focus on the main issue at hand, instead of the symptoms. If necessary, they can have a short time-out and come back to it again. Always allow revisiting a previously agreed action plan.”

Cool off before your argument escalates to blows because that doesn’t help the situation at all, he warns. “You’re the owner of your emotions, which means no one can make you angry; it’s your choice. When you become emotional, you can tell your spouse that you feel angry, frustrated or sad, and ask for a time-out to calm down, if it helps.”

If this happens often, seek help from a counsellor or anger management class.

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Let your spouse know if you think the matter isn’t settled. Wong says it’s perfectly all right to revisit the issue. “When you can laugh at the matter, it means you have put it behind you.”

A version of this article first appeared in Young Parents. 

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