When it comes to parenting practices, there’s no doubt that it has changed over the years, especially with the rise of the Internet and social media, and a deluge of approaches and advice at our disposal. How are parents doing it now? What has changed compared to when they were kids? In conjunction with Mother’s Day, the Weekly speaks to four modern mums, on their mantras when it comes to raising their kids, how their own childhood has shaped their parenting styles, and their journey and struggles as a working mother.
You may have seen the buzzy term ‘respectful parenting’ floating around on TikTok or Instagram, but what does it really mean? Like its name suggests, it embraces the notion of mutual respect in a parent-child relationship. “It’s about allowing our children to express their emotions so they learn how to process difficult feelings and events, and trusting that they are innately good and willing, and able to work with us,” says Kelly Tay, a respectful parenting coach.
Kelly, 34, is also the founder of Juicy Parenting, an online parenting course and membership-based community. The former financial journalist at The Business Times and later on head of DBS’s Chief Investment Office editorial team left her job to become a stay-at-home mum, before starting Juicy Parenting.
She shares, “I specialise in helping Asian parents drop the cane, stop the yelling, and actually enjoy parenthood. I show parents how these seemingly “Western-only” respectful parenting principles can actually work in Asian contexts (although I should also say many of my clients aren’t Asian!). As cheesy as it sounds, I truly love my job.”
Her husband Andrew, 41, is a manager at a Big Tech company, and they have two kids, one who’s nearly three and a 10-month-old. She clues us in on what respectful parenting really is about, having age-appropriate expectations of her children, and why she’s vowed never to have a cane in her household.