These Husbands Share Why They're Happy To Do House Chores

When your days get absolutely busy, there is no time to refer to the family roster (if it even exists!) just to see who is supposed to fold the laundry, or who is supposed to scrub the sink. Having a partner you can rely on to chip in with the housework without your asking is the best gift a woman can sometimes ask for.

It's 2024, and having every able member of the household contribute to house chores should be a given, regardless of gender. Unfortunately, there's still some way to go for families where housework is disproportionately and unfoundedly shouldered by women.

Since good things ought to be shared, let's hear from these motivated husbands who have no qualms doing their share of housework. They tell us why every partner in a household should do chores — no questions asked.

Happy wife, happy life!

"My wife is currently working full-time while pursuing part-time studies, so I know that doing the housework will help to lessen her burden. Plus, since it’s our own home, I naturally feel responsible for the housework too. It's useful to have this motto in mind: happy wife, happy life!

If your partner is new to this chores game, give him some time to adjust. He can start with the small chores before progressing to more difficult ones. Have an open conversation with your partner — how you feel about how things are run, and share specifically what help you need."

Ridzwan, 36, father of three and an employee in the hospitality industry

A clean home fosters harmony

"It’s the sense of satisfaction knowing that the home is clean and comfortable for my family. Growing up, my parents emphasised the importance of shared responsibilities, influencing my perspective on housework. It’s not just a polished floor or nicely folded laundry -- these very things can foster a harmonious family life. 

I encourage couples to find a balance that works for both parties. Is there a way to distribute the workload fairly between the two of you? It does not mean that you split everything down the middle. Rather, you can divide and conquer. One can be in charge of the kitchen while the other can tackle the bedroom."

Johan, 43, civil servant and father of four

It reflects the work you put into the marriage

"Firstly, who wouldn’t want a tidy home to return to after a long day out? Also, for things to run smoothly at home, each partner is an important contributor. Most important of all, you marry your wife for many reasons, and treating her like a helper is not one of them! We can see housework as a challenge, just as how dating was before marriage. Now the work you put into the marriage, which includes the chores, is also forever a work in progress!"

Haikal, 31, process technician

Housework is gender-neutral

"Growing up, my siblings and I learned that housework never belonged to any gender. We all took turns making our bed, sweeping and mopping floors, doing laundry — my mother’s emphasis on cleanliness only taught us that hard work needs to be put in. I like being able to contribute to my family's well-being this way, and making sure my wife has peace of mind that the home is in decent shape when she has a long work day.

For those who don’t have the habit of doing housework regularly, start small. Making the bed each morning, washing dishes after meals and disposing the trash are simple work. Yet such simple work can turn frowns into smiles! Every contribution matters. The hard work put into housework represents the respect and appreciation you have for each other too."

Fauzan, 36, father of one and an air safety investigator

Your physical environment mirrors your marriage

"Cleaning your matrimonial home is actually like an ode to your marriage. Just like how much you value the sanctity of your relationship, taking good care of your living conditions is important. Our physical living environment can influence the health of your relationship. Also, I’d like to think that doing housework together through all seasons in a marriage is symbolic of your commitment. When you see housework beyond just being work, but as something valuable you can bring to your relationship, it can change your perspective."

 Zakee, 36, father of three and a chemist