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Don't ask a mum why she looks so tired. Instead, ask why she's tired. There's a lot to be said about that.
Tune in to our new talk show Two Tired Mums, hosted by The Weekly's editor-in-chief Estelle Low and SPH Media's senior producer-presenter Jill Lim. Diving into touchy topics, the millennial mums unpack the reality and hard truths of motherhood and parenting in Singapore today. Expect hilarious and "me too!" moments in their intimate and unscripted conversations over a cuppa – the kind of catch-ups mums need to have more of.
Two Tired Mums Episode 1 - Family Planning & Why We Had Kids
In this first episode, Estelle and Jill unpack the reasons why people choose to have children today. They get real about what it means to be parents and explore what family planning and readiness look like in the modern age. From financial and social considerations to the often-overlooked mental aspects, nothing is left off the table.
Timestamps
0:00 - 2:06: Introduction
Let's be clear: Mums are allowed to be tired, regardless of the help they have. Also, don't ask a mum why she looks so tired.
2:06 - 6:42: Estelle's Early Marriage & Unplanned Parenthood
Estelle shares how she got "tricked" into having kids in her 20s, and the lack of prep for her first pregnancy. Jill recalls her parents' pragmatic reactions to her first pregnancy announcement.
6:42 - 10:03: Parenting Values & Cultural Identity
Jill and Estelle discuss the values they want to instill in their children, and the challenges of raising a biracial child.
10:03 - 13:06: Challenges Faced By Pregnant Women & Mums At The Workplace
They explore perceptions and expectations of mothers at the workplace, as well as changing societal attitudes.
13:06 - 16:55: Pregnancy Can Take You Down In Unexpected Ways
Jill shares her horrible, high-risk pregnancy experiences, including an "incompetent cervix". Plus, how she successfully planned her children's zodiac signs (Scorpio and Cancer).
16:55 - 21:30: Reasons Why We Have Kids
They discuss the different motivations (external/internal, spoken/unspoken, conscious/unconscious) for having kids, and share their personal reasons for having kids. Despite the drain of parenting, both of them are even entertaining the thought of having baby no. 3!
21:30 - 26:28: Making Caregiving Plans For Children
Jill and Estelle share how they ended up letting grandparents look after their kids, plus some of their challenges, regrets and lessons learnt along the way.
Hosts: Estelle Low and Jill LimProducer: Maya EmanArt direction: Michelle LeeVideography, studio setup and digital backdrop: Joel Chng, Marc De Souza and Zeke TanStyling: Angela ChuMakeup: Dorcas YamHairstyling: Pattama PhumriewOutfits: Perk By KateProduced by: The Singapore Women's WeeklyPost-production: Studio+65
